Tackling Common Myths & Excuses for Avoiding the Weight Room


I invited Valerie Solomon of Busy Mom Gets Fit (check her out on Facebook) to be a Guest Blogger on my site, as I've been following her for years, and completely admire her dedication, determination and perservance that so many other busy Mom's lack, because of this, that or the other.  With Val, there are no excuses, especially being that she's an Army wife and has FOUR boys!  Meet Valerie:

I am the busy mother of four boys, an Army wife, a Figure competitor, and an advocate for moms getting strong, lean, and healthy.  If you feel energetic, healthy, and good about yourself, you are bound to be a great mother.  The steps to getting fit are straight forward.  You need to eat a healthy diet high in lean protein and vegetables.  You need to add strength training into your exercise routine. 


The benefits of strength training are well documented: 

Knowing these facts, why are so few women stepping into the weight room?  

Here, I tackle 7 common myths and excuses.

1.  It will make me bulky.  I do not want to be that muscular.

We have all seen disturbing/extreme pictures of female bodybuilders.  You may have seen some not so extreme pictures of women with muscles that did not appeal to you as well.  There are two ways a woman can become extremely muscular:


A.  Lift weights religiously for years and eat a meticulous muscle building diet.

B.  Take steroids and lift weights religiously and eat a meticulous muscle building diet.


I point this out to show you how silly it sounds for an average woman who eats an average diet to be concerned about putting on too much muscle.  For a woman to add a lot of muscle, she must do it on purpose.  It takes effort, planning, and dedication.  It is not as if you will have huge biceps after one week of training.  Muscle develops over time. 

My advice is to TRY to build a lot of muscle.  Being a woman, you will develop womanly curves and toned arms and legs that you will LOVE in a year or so (or even less depending on your starting point).  And, if you decide that you do not love your strong arms, you can always stop lifting (I bet you love them!).  Muscle is much easier to lose than to gain.

2.  I do not have time.

You make time for things that are your priority.  Make your health a priority.  Instead of putting “work out” at the end of your to-do list, put it at the top.  Knock it out first thing in the morning.   The endorphins will kick in.  You will feel better all day because of it!

Also, getting fit does not have to be a huge time commitment.  30-45 minutes of strength training 2 or 3 days a week would be great.

3.  I am intimidated to enter the weight room.

It is scary to do anything for the first time.  This did not stop you from buying your first car, going to college, having children, etc.  You knew what you needed to do and you got it done.  You are a grown woman!  If you want something, go and get it!

Here are a few tips that may help you get started:

            A.  Work with a personal trainer until you feel comfortable.

            B.  Find a workout buddy.

            C.  Research what to do beforehand.  Go in with a plan (link to my store?).

4.  I need to lose fat first.

Getting rid of fat is important and top priority for so many in our society.  Any exercise is always better than nothing when it comes to taking steps to getting healthy.  That being said, for long term weight management and health, muscle is needed.  Muscle will actually help you get rid of the fat as it raises your metabolic rate.  Muscle burns more calories than fat, even while you are at rest.

5.  I might turn into a man.

Ummm.  No.  But you may turn in to a fox.

6.  I do not want to look ripped.

“Ripped” – term I use to describe a super lean person, likely right before or at a bodybuilding competition.   Muscle definition is at its peak.  No person unintentially looks ripped.  Again, the diet is meticulous and well planned out. 

7.  I might hurt my joints.

Strength training is prescribed as injury prevention.  Research shows that it reduces joint pain.  Of course over use and improper form can lead to injury and joint pain, but in general, muscle strength is a positive.

For me, strength training and working out with the goal of getting strong instead of skinny has been key in my fitness journey and over-all well being.  I go to the gym for fun.  I have gained confidence.  I feel energetic and healthy.  I hope as time goes on, more women will step into the weight room to join me and the other scores of women who have reaped the benefits of added muscle and strength training.

Valerie Solomon “Busy Mom Gets Fit”

Thank you Val!  You will continue to inspire the lives of many, including myself! Keep it up!

Your partner in health & fitness,










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